Point. Blank. Period.
The brightest spots in our lives are those moments we share with the people we love and care for. Key word: share.
If someone refuses to help keep the flames of your candles lit as you do for them, you are not obligated to share your light with them. Self care is important. We often set ourselves aside for the selfishness of others.
Stop. It is unhealthy. Point. Blank. Period.